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It’s no secret: the word “bisexual,” announcing that one enjoys both sexual options our heterosexist society presents to its citizens, has been under fire ever since it gained use as an identity label. One main reason is that two ways used to describe it, especially throughout previous decades (though less common today), are “attraction to both genders” and “attraction to both sexes.”

There are two primary reasons people dislike the above definitions: they either believe that

  1. not enough genders/sexes are included (these phrases clearly imply that only two exist) or
  2. too many genders/sexes are included (under the premise that people…

It’s an action — we need to stop treating it like an identity

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It’s a noble goal to strive for, fighting alongside the less fortunate, standing in solidarity with one’s oppressors in an effort to fight the oppression they face. It should be the goal, and allies in communities are very valuable assets, as they can use their privilege for the benefit of the marginalized. Without allies, it would be outrageously difficult to progress in the fight for our rights.

That said, the title of “ally” has warped into more than simply fighting in solidarity with the oppressed — for quite a number of privileged folks, it seems to be understood as something…

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As social issues regarding gender continue spreading and increasing in nuance, people not already well-versed in such matters — especially those who are new to them — can easily get lost in conversations. Even those with a basic grasp can unintentionally spread misinformation. Furthermore, as the person who requested that I make this guide told me, “I run into people every day who are strongly attached to labels without any real grasp of their history or how other people might understand them.”

Similar vocabulary guides already exist, of course, but they seldom give more than simple if not incomplete definitions…

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This is an abridged version of this vocabulary list, which goes much more in-depth at the expense of brevity.

Agender (adjective)

An identity characterized by a lack of gendered feelings. Some agender people identify with gendered sexuality terms (gay, lesbian, straight) and only feel connected to wo/manhood via their attraction to wo/men.

Androgynous (adjective)

Appearing partially male/masculine and partially female/feminine in appearance or gender expression. Not to be confused with nonbinarity.

Assigned gender (noun)

The gender one’s doctor assigns them at birth. Asking a transgender person about theirs is strongly discouraged. One’s assigned gender does not inherently tell you anything about their body or experiences.

Bigender (adjective)

An identity…

A while ago, I thought about certain gender experiences I have that could theoretically place me in the “multi-gendered” category (which leads me to question if I may be bigender) but also don’t seem to be comfortably or fully accurately described by that term (as an example of such an experience: I sometimes feel a connection to black women and feel significantly less dysphoria when referred to as a girl or woman by other black women).

Since not having shorthand language to talk about them is a bit isolating and makes navigating them a bit difficult, I decided to just…

[Abridged Version]

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(For the longer, more detailed version of this article, click here.)

Nonbinary identities have complicated many people’s understandings of sexuality. “If I get a crush on a nonbinary person,” some ask, “does that mean I’m no longer straight/gay/bi?” While it seems many answer with “yes,” this arises from ignorance about nonbinarity.

Nonbinarity: A Primer

“Nonbinary” is a catch-all for those who do not fully and exclusively identify as male or female. Like “transgender,” it simply describes how we experience gender. Some nonbinary folks lack a gender entirely, others’ genders are neutral, while some of us are partially — or both — male and…

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As pansexuality is seemingly a fresh sexual identity to the mainstream, article upon article scrambles to explain it to audiences that may have never heard of it before. This is obviously a natural and good response to learning about relatively new terminology.

An issue here, however, is that almost all of these articles rely on comparisons to other identities — especially bisexuality — which actually spread misinformation and hurtful ideas in the process. Sometimes, they’re not even accurate to all pansexuals. …

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For the umpteenth time, cisgender straight men engaging in gender-nonconformity is becoming a heated debate. It isn’t just homophobes demeaning who they find degenerately effeminate, though — LGBTQ folks and “allies” hopped on the bandwagon, too. Coincidentally, this round of criticism seems to be happening at the same time conservatives are once again rallying to “bring back manly men,” this time in response to Harry Style’s recent Vogue photoshoot. The “queer” retaliation reveals some disturbing beliefs about other members of our demographic.

Say What?

A now-deleted tweet showcased a TikTok of a (presumably) cisgender straight teenager dancing to music in a skirt…

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The labels “bisexual” and “pansexual” have extensive backgrounds in the realm of sexuality that most people aren’t aware of. Examining them as terms describing attraction, specifically (both words have contexts outside of this), it becomes evident that many texts describing pansexual orientation feel the need to distinguish it from bisexual orientation by defining the two terms in virtually mutually exclusive ways. But how accurate is this practice when looking at the various ways both terms have been defined in the past — or even currently?

Looking at the histories of the “bisexual” and “pansexual” labels in full, we find few…

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When people write and talk about pansexual orientation, a common emerging pattern is claiming that “pansexual” is a new term, some folks even claiming that it didn’t exist until the 2000s. This, however, is simply misinformation. The word “pansexual” itself has been around for almost a century now, and people have adopted it as a sexual identity for decades in various ways.

Since few people know much — if anything — about the origins and evolution of this term, a compilation of its uses felt in order. …

Kravitz M.

A black, bisexual, nonbinary, transgender, pseudonymous “man.” He/him.

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